The Importance of Self Control

Social changes are rapid (rapid social change) as a consequence of modernization, industrialization, advances in science, and technology has influenced the conduct, moral values, ethics, and lifestyle (value system and way of life).
The existence of lust while providing benefits to human life, also can bear madlarat (discomfort, or confusion in life, both personal and social). This condition occurs when the desires are not controlled or controlled, because the inherent nature of the passions is to encourage (provoke) the bad man or evil (in the Psychology Study of Religion, 2003).
According Fachrurozi (in Java Pos, 2004) insanity today's society is the personification of madness that is experienced as the implications of modernity, that modernity, in addition to delivery of progress in various aspects (information technology, economic, political, social, and cultural), it also generated insanity or mental disorder. It is expected that each individual can control ourselves against any change.
The actions are not controlled are often associated with teenagers, as is often the form of fighting conducted by teens, so the fight between teenagers has become a common phenomenon in the wider community, especially in big cities, the fight is usually triggered by the problems that trivial, such as touched on the road, or at each other is interpreted as a form of challenging, and usually ends with a fight, a fight between teenagers at first involve only two individuals later developed into a fight between groups.
According to Lewin (in Winarno, 2003) these conditions are due in the interdependent nature between members and those conditions likely to be a conflict of SARA, since Indonesia consists various tribes, religions, races, different, so that individuals will feel anxious, not safe, and easily ignited emotions when individuals lack self-control. Therefore, self-control necessary to control the emotions yamg comes from within and outside the individual as a natural form of socialization.
According to Drever, self-control is a control or controls that are run by individuals against the feelings, the movements of the heart, his own actions, while Goleman (in Sarah, 1998) imply that self-control as the ability to adjust and control the pattern in accordance with age. Bander (in Sarah, 1998) states that self control is an individual's ability to control the action indicated by the ability to plan life, and frustrated-frustrated and able to withstand an explosion of emotion. The teen years are marked with an easy emotions tend to explode or can not control himself, but not all teenagers easily ignited emotions or unable to control himself, in particular teenagers also been able to mature in terms of controlling every action he does.

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The Characteristics of High Morale

The characteristics used to measure the level of morale that employees have largely referring to Maier's opinion stating there are four basic concepts that reflects high morale which, among other things:
a. Excitement or enthusiasm (Zest, Enthusiasm). Maier said that anyone who has a passion in the work means also have the motivation or incentive to work, motivation will be formed if the lack of desire or interest and joy in doing his job. Desires or interests of the employee's work reflects the employee incentive in doing a job. The desire of employees to work a strong say if the employee did not because of feelings of anxiety.
b. Quality to survive (Staying Quality). Every person must have a specific purpose in work and trying to achieve, the greater the individual efforts to overcome difficulties in achieving the goal, showing that the individual has high morale. Maier stated that the individual still trying to reach the original goals despite difficulties, this indicates that the individual has the quality to survive.
c. Strength against frustration (Resistance to Frustation). Maier stated that the different forces against frustrated with the quality to survive, although in general they reflect how the individual is faced obstacles encountered during the work. In this aspect Maier involves an interesting thing to know the individual morale, which is frustrating.
d. Group spirit. Morale Multipal according to the book of Personal Administration; that morale is an individual attitude or the attitude of the individual to work and work environment.

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What are the Causes Depression?

Basic cause of depression is certainly not known, many attempts to find the cause of this disorder. According to Kaplan in Tarigan (2003), Factors associated with causes can be divided up: biological factors, genetic factors and social psychological factors. Where these three factors can also affect each other with each other.
a. Biological factors: 1) factors neurotransmitter: From biogenic amin, norepinephrine and serotonin are two neurotransmitters that play a role in the pathophysiology of the mood disorder. a) Norepinephrine: a relationship expressed by basic scientific research between the decline in regulatory b-adrenergic receptor and clinical response to antidepressants possible indication of the role of noradrenergic systems in depression. Other evidence that also involves presinaptik adrenergic receptors in depression, since the receptor is activated receptors result in reduction in the amount of norepinephrine released. Presipnatik adrenergic receptors are also located in neurons and regulate the amount serotonergik released serotin, b) Serotonin: a known number of specific securities serotin re inhibator uptake (SSRI), for example; fluoxetin in the treatment of depression, making the neurotransmitter serotonin, biogenic amin most often associated with depression , c) Dopamine: although norepinephrine and serotonin are biogenic amin. Dopamine is also often associated with the pathophysiology of depression, d) other neurochemical factors: neuroaktif GABA and peptides (especially vasopressin and endogenous opiate) have been involved in the pathophysiology of mood disorders. 2) neuroendocrine factors: Hipothalamus is central neuroendocrine regulation of neuronal stimulation and accept that use the neurotransmitter biogenic amin. Various endocrine disregulasi found in patients with mood disorders. 3) Factor Neuroanatomi: Some researchers say the hypothesis, that the mood disorder involving the pathological and the limbic system, basal ganglia and the hypothalamus.
b. Genetic factors: Genetic Data states that a significant factor in the development of mood disorder is genetic. In studies of twins, severe depression, the monozigot twins is 50%, while dizigot 10 to 25%.
c. Psychosocial factors. 1) Events of life and environmental stress: a clinical observation that the event or events in the life of tension often precedes episodes of mood disorder. One theory explains that the stress that accompanies the first episode will cause changes in neurotransmitter function and system of intra-neuronal signaling that ultimately these changes have caused a high risk to suffer from mood disorders later. 2) Premorbid personality factors: No single personality or a special form of personality as a predisposition to depression. All people with any personality traits may experience depression, although such tipetipe oral dependent personality, obsessive compulsive, hysterical has a great risk of depression than others. 3) psychoanalytic and psychodynamic factors: Freud (1917) suggests a relationship between object loss and melancholia. He stated that depressed patients anger directed at myself for identifying the missing object. Freud believed that introjection is a way to escape the ego of the missing object. E. Bibring emphasized the loss of self-esteem. Bibring said the depression as an effect that can do something about the aggression that is directed into him. When depressed patients realize that they do not live in accordance with the dicita-citakannya, will cause them to despair. 4) Learned helplessness: In the experiment, in which animals are repeatedly confronted with an electric shock that can not be avoided, the animal will eventually give up and not try at all to avoid surprises later. They learn that they are helpless. In depression, we can find the same lack of empowerment of the state. 5) Theory of Cognitive Development: Beck show an interest in cognitive disorders depression Asikal HS in Tarigan (2003) He identifies 3 major cognitive patterns in depression called cognitive triad, namely: a) a negative view toward the future, b) a negative view of self, the individual considers himself incapable, stupid, lazy, worthless, c) a negative view of life experience. Meyer argues that depression is a reaction to the experience of life.

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Lesbianism, Lifestyle or Sexual Abnormality?

In Indonesia, lesbianism seems to grow quite rapidly in the social area. If used, lesbian woman best to hide his true identity, but now they come together in a container or organization that everyone can know. Look, lesbian groups scattered-site Facebook and other adult sites. So the question is, whether lesbianism is now a way of life? Is not a lesbian is a sexual abnormality or aberration? Before concluding, Blog World of Psychology will try to probe what it was lesbianism.
Lesbianism belong to abnormalities caused by sexually-sex partners abnormal. Extract derived lesbianism Lesbos said. Lesbos itself is the name for an island in the middle Egeis Ocean, which in ancient times inhabited by the women (in Kartono, 1985). Homosexuality among women referred to the love lesbis or lesbianism. Indeed, at the age of puberty, in individuals appears predisposition (nature, trend) bisexual, which is to love a friend's daughter, and loving friend of a man.
In the process of normal adolescent development, Bisexuality can develop into a heterosexual (like the opposite sex). Conversely if the process is abnormal, eg caused by factors specific endogin or eksogin, then Bisexuality could develop into a lesbian, and object-erotic is really a woman. In general, lesbianism is the love of a very deep and more intense than heterosexual love. Although the lesbian relationship, did not get a fair sexual satisfaction. Lesbian love is usually more powerful than the love of homosexual men delivered.
Lesbianism among other symptoms caused by the woman in question was too easy saturated heteroseksualnya relations, such as husbands or male lovers. A lesbian who never had an orgasm. Another cause is a traumatic experience for a man or a cruel husband, causing a deep hatred and antipathy toward any man. Then she would rather do sex relationships and sex life with someone other women. Lesbian women considered heterosexual relationship could not make him happy, his sexual relationship with a fellow woman regarded as compensation from the sense of unhappiness.
Well, both lesbianism and homosexuality in women in many male hormones stimulated by eksogin and environmental factors. So if lesbianism is a lifestyle or sexual abnormalities? Blog World Psychology fully devolved to the reader, and the program must be remembered before the conclusion is the fact that the lesbian into a lifestyle of women as the gender issue intensified. Accusing them of sexual abnormality is too naive, because there are lesbians that Indonesia has not investigated the cause hormone. Could be more and more lesbians Indonesia for 'incompetence' men put women in its proper place. God Bissawab.

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Four Man Award in Theoretical Behavioristic

1. Self Awareness 
Self-awareness is the ability to take a distance with yourself and examine the thoughts, motives, history, life script, actions, or habits and tendencies. This allows people to release the glasses themselves. Self-awareness allows the glasses to see themselves and see through it. This enables people to become aware of the social and psychological history of the programs available to the child and to widen the gap between stimulus and response.
2. Conscience 
 Linking human conscience with the wisdom and the wisdom of the heart era. This is a guidance system that is in the human soul, which enables people to understand when people act or even contemplate something that is consistent with the principle. This also gives people an understanding of the unique talents and human missions.
3. Independent Will Free will is the human ability to act. This gives people the strength to overcome self paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write the script of his life, to act on the basis of principles rather than reacting based on emotion and environment. While genetic influences and the environment may be very strong, these influences can not control people. humans do not become victims. man is not a product of his past. Humans are the product of choice options. Humans can give feedback (response-able)-able to respond, able to select the opposite mood and propensity-kecondongannya. Humans have the will power to act on self awareness, conscience, and vision.
4. Creative Imagination  Creative imagination is the ability to observe things in the future, to create something human dibenak, and solving problems synergistically. This is the gift of the ability that allows humans to see ourselves and others differently and better than today. This allows one to write a personal mission statement, set goals, or plan a meeting. This also makes a person more able to visualize yourself pernyataah are experiencing personal mission, even in the most challenging environments, and to apply these principles in a variety of new situations effectively.
By developing and using these four gifts, people will be empowered and have a strong self concept, so that they can make choices and attitude wise to the situation or stimulus which he received. Conversely, those who ignored and allowed four gifts that he has not developed, so his behavior and choices are not effective, so it is easy to be controlled by environmental, social pressures or the mood.

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Adults In Differences

Friday sermon at a mosque this time, the story of envy. Khotib very excited when preaching. At first, what he conveyed was correct. However, at the end of the sermon, many of which he conveyed was not correct.
The theme of his sermon to say is about envy / jealousy. Envy is a despicable character, qualities that should be avoided by a Muslim. Definition envy is not happy when someone else get pleasure, happiness, or success. On the contrary, feel good if someone else got calamity or hardship.
Spite of the deeds which are forbidden in Islam. Even envy is contrary to Islamic teachings, which have always taught his followers to keep other people happy, and entertaining so sorry if there are neighbors who get accidents, etc.. And khotib, thank God, quite successfully explained this included providing examples of concrete.
Unfortunately, almost at the end of the sermon he gave an example of inappropriate, which I give the sub title "grown in diversity". He explained that the difference in the community exists, including in Islam. SunatUllah Therefore, let each group perform in accordance with his understanding of Islam. And let the differences that still exist, no need to blame each other. The term that he used was blasphemous. Here he gives some examples, which I need not mention. And, he also said that this blasphemy as a form of envy.
At least that's what I understand from earlier speeches. There are some things that need to be corrected: 1. SunatUllah of an event does not guarantee that the Almighty God bless the event. No need to bother to look for examples, namely corruption. Corruption is happening already sunatUllah. But that does not mean corruption blessed Allah SWT. Any disobedience occurs also because sunatUllah, but it does not mean that Allah SWT for all disobedience ridho it. If he thinks like that, then what good is the reward of sin, and what's the point of heaven and hell. In conclusion, the difference (the split) was sunatUllah, but it does not mean that Allah blessed. In fact it is very objectionable, based on the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad split the people. 2. Khotib can not differentiate between the slander and correction (as counsel in order amar ma'ruf - nahi unjust). If your child is wrong, then we are justified, it is called as advice and not a blasphemy. And khotib averaged equate all forms of advice to the blasphemy. And that's very different. Advice based on science, which can distinguish between the right with a falsehood. While blasphemy based more on passion, emotion, and without science. 3. All of blasphemy is due to envy. It is likely this statement is not wrong, but because of the advice are also classified as blasphemy, as a result nasehatpun categorized as envy. This is clearly wrong. When we give advice to the child, whether it was because of envy? Do not reversed? Indeed, the advice is a sign of affection. If you do not love, parents would never advise his son. 4. The last important phrase is "those who blaspheme (by definition the khotib) is a person who feels most clever". Once again this is a backwards statement. Insya Allah, the truth is "people who feel most intelligent are those who do not want to be corrected".
Some things that can be used as a lesson: 1. Differences in the midst of the people there. However, there are differences that still allowed and there is a difference that was not allowed. To distinguish them, the argument takes the Qur'an and Al-Hadith. 2. When other people are advising us (of course based on science), should not it be regarded as blasphemous, especially because of envy. Advice is a sign that people are very fond of giving advice to us. 3. Science can not be abandoned. Only with the knowledge and guidance of Allah SWT, we can distinguish between right and falsehood.

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